Fear as an Obstacle

Fear can hinder individuals from embracing discomfort and adventure, ultimately preventing them from pursuing their dreams.

For example, I hesitated to commit to an off-grid lifestyle, even after purchasing a shipping container and transforming it into a home. It took us several months to muster the courage to spend a weekend there as a trial.

We hesitated because we knew the transition would be difficult. Living in a city apartment offered conveniences like Uber Eats, evening television, and instant heating. We had a fully functioning shower and modern kitchen appliances, which made the thought of giving that up daunting.

Nevertheless, we took the leap and treated our first weekend in the container like a camping experience. At first, conditions were basic; we lacked internet and cell service. However, that weekend quickly revealed to us that this was the life we had always envisioned. The tranquility, stunning surroundings, and the peaceful environment we had carved out for ourselves made everything worthwhile.

In that moment, all our previous worries faded away. I realized there was no other place I would prefer to be, even if it meant enduring a doorless outhouse for toilet breaks.

Understanding Fear's True Nature

Reflecting on my fears, I realized they stemmed from deeper concerns.

I had legitimate worries: how would we manage without internet or a flushing toilet? Would I be cold? Could I even cook without a full kitchen? Surprisingly, I learned I could do nearly everything on a BBQ, including making pizza.

However, the root of my fear was the prospect of achieving my dream. I had long envisioned this lifestyle since my teenage years, discussing sustainable living and self-sufficiency with my husband. The thought of finally realizing those dreams raised doubts: what if the reality didn’t meet my expectations?

Once I delved deeper, I discovered that beyond my surface-level worries lay a fear of success itself. Achieving my dream risked reshaping my identity, and I questioned who I would be if my aspirations didn’t align with reality.

Fear as a Guide to Opportunity

The truth is, none of my fears came to fruition.

We devised solutions for most of our challenges — particularly the lack of internet. You’d be amazed at the creativity that emerges when you genuinely desire something.

We were so preoccupied with our worries that we almost overlooked the opportunities before us. Fear serves as a compass, directing us toward where we should focus our energy and revealing potential opportunities. A comfortable life, while appealing, does not foster growth. It’s often the moments that push us outside our comfort zones that lead to positive outcomes.

When you experience fear, consider what it is signaling to you.

Fear highlights your passions. If I hadn’t cared deeply about the off-grid lifestyle, those concerns would have deterred me immediately. Many people wouldn’t even contemplate a life without cell service or TV; thus, they wouldn’t experience the same fear. My persistent worry was a sign that this opportunity was significant to me.

If you find yourself grappling with fear, reflect on its origins and understand why it matters. This introspection can illuminate areas where you need to push yourself further.

Strategies for Confronting Fear

Facing fears can be daunting, but I’ve found a method that has helped me, inspired by Stoicism: pre-meditatio malorum — the practice of deliberately contemplating potential challenges we may encounter. This technique prepares us to visualize difficulties and consider solutions.

Seneca advises:

“What is quite unlooked for is more crushing in its effect, and unexpectedness adds to the weight of a disaster. This is a reason for ensuring that nothing ever takes us by surprise. We should project our thoughts ahead of us at every turn and have in mind every possible eventuality instead of only the usual course of events…”

By contemplating potential challenges, we can cultivate a sense of preparedness. It’s crucial to distinguish this from overthinking or spiraling into anxiety. Stoic philosophy promotes a mindful approach to anticipating obstacles while also planning responses.

This exercise isn’t about pessimism; it’s about realism. Accepting that life won’t always unfold as desired helps to mitigate anxiety. If we brace ourselves for the worst, we are more equipped to handle challenges when they arise.

Ultimately, most of the fears we imagine never materialize. Reflect on how often you anticipated disaster, only to find everything turned out well.

As Seneca wisely stated:

“We often suffer more in our imagination than in reality.”

So, as you navigate your day, embrace discomfort. Engage in activities that intimidate you. Acknowledge all the potential pitfalls, yet still, seize the day. When things don’t go according to plan, remind yourself of your resilience. You are equipped to face whatever comes your way.