Optimizing Your Social Game: Understanding Ambiversion
Written on
Chapter 1: My Journey from Introversion to Ambiversion
As a child, I was naturally reserved, often hesitant to engage with new people. It wasn’t about fear; it was more about feeling that my personal space was exclusive. I found comfort in my routines and preferred solitude, allowing only a select few friends into my world. Over time, however, I transformed into someone more vocal and expressive, sharing my thoughts about various topics. This outgoing phase didn't last long, as I eventually returned to my more introverted nature. Today, I identify as an ambivert—someone who embodies traits of both introverts and extroverts.
Research indicates that ambiversion is quite common, suggesting that many people experience a blend of introverted and extroverted qualities depending on circumstances and mood. Understanding what energizes us and consciously seeking those experiences can significantly improve our well-being.
Section 1.1: The Impact of Others' Energy
Certain individuals can evoke my extroverted side, while others may push me back into my shell. Throughout my life, I've learned to reflect on how specific interactions affect my mood. By identifying the people who uplift me, I can better manage my social environment.
Subsection 1.1.1: Recognizing Your Support Network
When faced with criticism or judgment, I often retreat into my introverted self. Acknowledging this response allows me to counteract it by focusing on those who bring joy into my life—my "songbirds."
Section 1.2: Managing Negative Influences
To navigate relationships with those who drain my energy, I recommend creating a mental list or jotting down names of individuals who affect your mood negatively. While some may be unavoidable, like coworkers or family members, it's crucial to minimize interactions with them.
- Allocate time before and after these encounters for activities you enjoy, such as listening to music, exercising, or pursuing hobbies. Engaging in uplifting activities can help recharge your spirit and prepare you for interactions that may be challenging.
Chapter 2: Embracing Your Unique Personality
Understanding yourself is key. Set boundaries around difficult situations and keep them brief. Prioritize enjoyable activities before and after your interactions. Curate a playlist or keep a book handy that brings you joy, like my favorite watercolour painting.
Section 2.1: The Role of Genetics in Personality
Studies suggest that genetics account for approximately 70% of our personality traits. While this is a significant factor, it does not mean we are powerless. We can adapt our introverted and extroverted tendencies to enhance our experiences and not let negativity dictate our happiness.
If you are interested in delving deeper into this topic, I recommend reading Vanessa Van Edwards' book on ‘Human Lie Detection and Body Language 101’.